Wisdom Tooth

My dentist gave me an appointment
It turned out to be a total disappointment.
I was really scared
And I prayed to be spared.
But the Doctor said calmly-
Problem with your wisdom tooth
Better you accept the truth.
I didn’t know how to react 
He simply said I have to extract.
You will be relieved of the pain 
And will never have it ever again.
He tried to make me comfortable
But I was throughout Very uncomfortable.
Don’t be so glum
I will make it numb.
I did not have a voice
Since I didn’t have a choice.
He started to operate
And expected me to co-operate.
 He kept on saying it is done,
It is almost done…it is done.
The pain was almost like a hell
He said you co-operated so well!!
I was left with a swollen cheek
I couldn’t even dare to speak.


Mrs. Arti  Sunil Bhatia


 
 

A very big question for the
PARENTS……


Is it possible to Bridge the generation
gap???


We always had complains, “Our parents don’t understand us”and our parents had the
same complains against us. Today we have complains against our children and they
also might be having the same views about us…….rightly said, ‘History repeats itself!!’


Now, when we have attained parenthood, we realize that whatever our parents used to say was correct to a CERTAIN EXTENT!!! Since, we are also behaving in the same way and are following the same trend. When questioned, we have reasons for our behavior just as our parents also had, which according to us are valid enough.
Some such reasons given by us are:-


We are concerned about you, we have experience and we know the
consequences, who else will guide you better than us , will we ever take any
wrong decisions for you?, we  never questioned our parents /accepted what they said (children will for sure think ..O really!!! )……….on and on and on…


Similarly children also have the  reasons for their behavior as we had in our times ….You don’t understand what I say , you don’t have faith in me, you always tell me or find faults with me, why can ‘t I do it the way I want to do , why do you treat me like  a child?, why …, why …why…???


Children never ever like, to be compared or to be told that, what they are doing is not
the way we did in our times, especially when it is told in a negative way and not as an appreciation. We have to understand as parents, that our kids are not living in those times, then why do they need to do things as it was done at that time!! Or as we did. They are separate individuals not our Xerox copies. They have their own strengths and have much more exposure, so let them try their own methods and succeed in their endeavors.


 Why can’t we do away with the conventional methods of parenting and try to at least
REDUCE the generation gap if not REMOVE it.



Can we really do that? Is it really possible? Of course! Why not!!


 Certain things have to be  kept in mind :- We have to STOP BEING JUDGEMENTAL, we don’t have to be AUTHORITATIVE rather we should be FRIENDLY, we have to give them RESPONSIBILITIES according to their capacities we have to give REASONS for our disapprovals,  we need to APPRECIATE their smallest achievements,  we don’t have  to CRITICIZE their shortcomings or mistakes,we don’t have to FORCE them to follow what we say, rather we have to GUIDE them and MENTOR them about right or wrong, we should LISTEN  to understand and not just to REACT , we should be always ready to LEARN from them, since they are the new generation ,more  exposed to technology  and also aware of the latest trends. Mind you, they are the future and we are on the verge of becoming the past, so better, let us accept them, respect them and become their companions.


 “You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you, for life goes forward not backward.”





 Mrs. Arti Bhatia
(Counsellor and Language trainer)

Eustress vs. Distress


The word Stress has become so common today, everyone
complains about being stressed. Be it an adult, a teenager or a small child
everyone is undergoing some or the other form of stress. For an adult it could
be- stress related to job, family, property, finance etc. For a teenager it
could be- academics, peer pressure, Career decisions etc. and for a small child
it could be - going to school, sibling rivalry and pressure from parents for
performances be it academic or in other creative fields
etc.


The moment we think about the word STRESS, we have all the negative feelings. Actually stress is not all that bad. It is just your body’s reaction to the state in which you are. There are two types of stresses EUSTRESS and DISTRESS.
EUSTRESS is the positive stress and DISTRESS is the negative stress. Eu
–is a Greek prefix for healthy. But in our day to day life we use the word
STRESS to speak about DISTRESS and we don’t ever think about the positive
stress. We know the positive one too, but probably have never considered it a
stress… It’s the feeling you get when you’ve done a good workout and your
adrenaline is rushing through your veins. It’s the feelings you get when you’re
learning to drive or that feeling or anxiety right before your wedding ceremony.



EUSTRESS, or the positive stress, has the following characteristics:

 -  Motivates
 -  Energizes
-  Is  short-term
 -  Is within our coping abilities i.e. we can bear
 -  Brings  excitement
 - Improves  performance

Examples of Eustress-marriage, having a child, transfer, promotion, planning a vacation, starting a new job/business, pursuing a course/hobby after a long
gap…


 In contrast, DISTRESS, or the negative stress, has the following characteristics: 
 -  Causes  anxiety or concern 
 - Can be short- or long-term 
 -  Is  outside our coping abilities i.e. hard to bear
 - Feels unpleasant 
 - Decreases  performance
 - Can lead to mental and physical problems 

 
Examples of DISTRESS –losing a loved one/job, financial crisis, illness, children’s poor performance at school, relationship issues, legal problems, unable to say no, over expectations from others and self, lack of proper time
management…


  Our efforts should be to convert all the stresses into EUSTRESS. This can be
achieved by proper stress management plan.

 Stress Management Plan -
Make little changes in your day to day activities, learn to prioritize, learn to
enjoy without having the feeling of guilt, learn to say “no”, have a nutritious
diet plan, exercise regularly, practice time management, don’t always try to be
a perfectionist, have a set of true friends with whom you can share your feelings, have positive attitude in life, don’t blame yourself for every negative situation and above all... Learn to bear little bit of pressure aswell, as it’s rightly said
“The only difference between a diamond and a lump of coal is that
the diamond had a little more pressure put on it.” 
 


Mrs. Arti Bhatia
(Counsellor and Language trainer)
ZENITH Counselling and Conversational English Training Centre
 (Sector 19, Kharghar Contact-9892131357)


 
 
  


  

 
Imperfect or I’mperfect
 
Expectations and reactions…
Led to botherations and more expectations

I tried to become exceptional
 But could never come up to the expectations….

Become a little smarter dear,
Please don’t try to act too smart.

Why can’t you be little more confident?
O Gosh! Don’t be so over confident.

You are so timid, people will cheat you,
You are so aggressive, people will beat you.

Don’t take things so lightly,
Why can’t you take things a bit lightly?

Why don’t you wear more of Brights?
You look very awesome in lights.

Don’t behave as if so fragile,
Now… you are being too agile.

You are messy in most of your affairs,
You are too fussy in all your affairs.

It went on and on and on….
I know I am not perfect in your eyes, 
Neither are you in my eyes.
Why can’t you accept me as I am?
Why can’t you respect me for what I am...?

For me-
I am not imperfect
Rather I’ m perfect.
So dear, love me or leave me….
I am happy as I am
I don’t want to change...I don’t want to change.

 Arti Sunil Bhatia

We cannot actually make everyone happy by changing ourselves. If we change ourselves for someone we will find another set of people who will find some scope for change in us and in the long run we ourselves will be
dissatisfied with what we have made of ourselves. I have used personal pronoun ‘I’ since it goes very well with imperfect, changing it to I’m perfect and it has nothing to do with the personal experience.


 
 
 
 
 
 

 
Shop till you drop!!

These words are really therapeutic, 
They make her all the more energetic.

Whichwords??
Sale, sale, sale
Shop till you drop, shop till you drop.

Whenever she is sad,
Or is ready to go mad, 
Just whisper these words,
Sale , sale , sale
Shop till you drop, shop till you drop.

She never needs a reason, 
She never looks for specific season,
For her only attraction is…
 Sale, sale, sale
Shop till you drop , shop till you drop.

She goes to the mall, 
And visits every stall,
She finds a shop which says…
Sale, sale,sale
Shop till you drop, shop till you drop.

Be it hot or be it cold,
She is always ready to hold,
Big shopping bags when she sees,
Sale , sale , sale
Shop till you drop, shop till you drop.

My friend is definitely not an alcoholic,
But for sure she is a shopaholic,
She gets easily addicted to 
Sale , sale , sale
Shop till you drop , shop till you drop.

 
Arti Bhatia


 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
  

 What is Marriage?
It is an institution which teaches the biggest lessons of life,
It means having a companion in all walks of life.
It is all about caring and sharing,
It is also about loving and adoring.
There is no scope for hatred and fear,
Provided our motives and goals are very clear
 It needs maturity from both the sides,
This means keeping all the egos aside.
It is not expecting too much from each other,
But always respecting each other.
There is no place for instructions,
But there is always room for suggestions.


 Marriage actually means a compromise,
If we fail to do so, we may pay a heavy price.


Arti Bhatia

 
 

TRUE LOVE
 It is a wonderful feeling;
Which does all sorts of healing.
It can never happen overnight,
It never happens at first sight.
True love can never rust,
Only if, not confused with lust.
It means accepting the differences,
And, understanding the preferences.
There is no fixed scale for demand and supply,
Since it never says conditions apply.
It doesn’t mean sympathizing,
But it does mean empathizing.
It knows no boundations,
Since,  it has strong foundation.
Love means sharing,
And it also means caring.

“Love actually means becoming the strength of the person
you love not his or weakness.”


 Arti Bhatia


 
 
 
 
 
 
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